Lifestyles Center Blog

MASTERING MONDAY: LOVE IS NOT ABUSE

Watch this: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=arGdCmkkVXg

This is an inspirational homemade video that spreads awareness about dating violence. It is important to know the warning signs, even if you are not directly affected by dating violence. You have the opportunity to help out your peers, friends, family, and community just by educating yourself! The victim in this video had a friend who was educated and aware of what to look out for. Her friend shared this knowledge with her and helped her come to a realization that this is not normal. It is okay to reach out and talk to people you feel may be affected. Just remember to always be supportive. You can make a significant impact in someone’s life and empower them to take action in their relationship.

Read this: http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/9191604

This is a story about a women who overcame dating violence. It started when she was 15 and lasted 7 whole years. She found it almost impossible to leave the relationship despite the emotional, psychological, and physical abuse. She just didn’t know who or where to turn too. She even protected the guy she loved and would lie to keep the abuse a secret. This story is beyond inspirational because she finally realized one day she is worth so much more. She deserved more. She left him and focused on giving herself a better life. She would not be where she is today if she didn’t make that decision. Although sometimes it may be hard to leave a relationship, it can be for the best. Long term relationships are easy to stay in because you feel comfortable. Change is hard to do, but sometimes it really is necessary. Today, this woman is an advocate for dating violence. She gives victims someone to turn too, something she never had through those 7 years. She is out there making a difference and it is her mission to help repair those who fall victim to the abuse. It really is a great read!

Do this: Learn the warning signs of dating violence. http://www.ncdsv.org/images/WarningSignsofTeenDatingViolence.pdf

  1. Always checking their cellphones and/or talking to their partner. Always checking in with one another and knowing who they are with or where they are at.
  2. Extreme jealousy in the relationship.
  3. Isolation and distancing themselves from family and friends.
  4. Possessive/controlling over their partner.
  5. Speaking for their partner, not letting them respond or answer questions.
  6. Degradation, name-calling, or insulting.
  7. Making false accusations.
  8. Does not take responsibility for their actions.
  9. Refuses to let the relationship end.

 

The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Don’t be afraid to call! Even if it is just a simple question, you are always welcome to call.

Written and researched by Peer Educator, Megan TuoheyPhoto Cred:here