SURVIVOR SERIES: HOW TO ASK FOR HELP
Admit it: there has been a time when you needed help, but didn’t ask for it. We all do it. Why? Maybe we’re embarrassed, too proud, or just don’t know how to ask for help. The truth is, EVERYONE needs a little help sometimes. Here are some common roadblocks to asking for help, and how to get past them:
- Thinking that a need for help shows weakness: Actually, being able to ask for help shows strength. It means you know what you need, and you know how to get it. Try to think of it in a more positive light- you’re showing that you’re not perfect, and that you have the confidence and insightfulness to admit it.
- Believing that help is not deserved: EVERYONE deserves to be heard, accepted, and supported in times of need. Friends and family may be able to help here. A mutually helpful, supportive relationship is healthy. Choose who you confide in carefully; go to someone who you trust, and who trusts you.
- Not being able to speak up: If an issue is not brought to attention, the people who care the most might not even know that you need help. Instead of assuming that you will be a burden, plan out what you need to say and go from there. There are people who will listen and who care!
- Waiting for someone else to bring it up: Waiting gets in the way of receiving help. Your friend might not ever bring it up; some people are not as receptive of subtle hints. Letting time pass can make the problem feel even bigger.
Humans are social creatures; we need each other! It might be hard at first, but eventually, asking for help will come much easier. You may even be in a better position to help the people you care about. Remember – you are not alone!
Elana Ginsburg, Lifestyles Center Intern
Emily Klingbeil, Peer Educator