Lifestyles Center Blog

SURVIVOR SERIES: HOW TO HANDLE HAZING

While sororities and fraternities can be a great source for life-long friends and great experiences, it doesn’t always go well for the pledges. Hazing is a serious issue and there are ways to get help if you ever feel that it’s happening to you.

  • It’s okay to feel that wayWhatever you may feel because of hazing: anger, embarrassment, fear, anxiety, helplessness or otherwise, it’s important to understand that you are entitled to those feelings. This is true even if others might not think the incident is a big deal. However, try your best to express those emotions in a way that is most healthy for you and those around you.
  • CommunicateWhile you might feel isolated because of the nature of sororities or fraternities, remember that your friends outside of the group are there for you. It helps to keep those lines open. You could find it a relief to tell them about what is happening to you, even if you were sworn to secrecy.
  • Seek helpWhether you go to a counselor, parent or other family member, it could help to have a few non-peer individuals to talk to.
  • Walk awayLeaving may seem hard, but it is still possible. It doesn’t show weakness to quit something that is hurting you. It shows strength.

 

More advice can be found at: https://hazing.cornell.edu/cms/hazing/do/individual/ifyou.cfm

*If you would like to talk about hazing, or another personal issue you might be having, you can make an appointment at the Counseling Center (315-312-4416) between 8:30am-noon and 1:00pm-4:30. Outside these hours, call the number and hit prompt number two and you will be connected to a mental health professional.