Lifestyles Center Blog

SURVIVOR SERIES: SURVIVING EXTENDED FAMILY

The holidays are upon us. Food, friends, and gift exchanges seem to take over your life as snow falls and everything is decorated with little lights. However, for many of us, there are certain unpreventable moments that come from being home for breaks: get-togethers with extended family. While everyone mostly loves their family and is happy to spend time with them, sometimes these shindigs with people you may not have seen in years can be tiresome and annoying. Here are some tips on how to survive certain family members:

  1. Young Cousins: These family members are perhaps one of the most tiring. Constant play and expectance for you to comply can lead to burdensome work as you may be just below the age limit to “hang” with the adults. If you don’t want to get trapped babysitting, suggest a holiday movie accompanied by coloring so that they are plenty distracted.
  1. The Drinkers: Whether it’s the stereotypical uncle or an older, distant relative, spiked eggnog is all the rage during the holidays. But don’t let this ruin anyone’s time. Avoid the resulting humans by being the one that offers to get their drink, never to return. Chances are, they’ll be so caught up in catching up with family that they won’t notice till later. This will allow for increased time between drinks and less visible results.
  1. “We Should Do This More Often” Relatives: These family members, however distant are noticeable by their distinct offer to exchange phone numbers and connect more often. For these members, there are two solutions. One way is to call them on their bluff. Set up a date and time for a future get-together and hold them to it. This way you can build stronger family relationships with the people you like. The second option is to smile and nod. By not confirming anything, your pleasant disposition will be all you need to deflect before someone changes topics.

At the end of the day though, remember to enjoy who you have in your life. Hey, if it’s really that bad, at least you have a funny story to go back and tell your friends.

 

Riley Ackley, Peer Educator